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How Establishing Healthy Boundaries can Enhance Self-Love & Reduce Stress - Part One

How Establishing Healthy Boundaries can Enhance Self-Love & Reduce Stress - Part One

Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others.

- Brené Brown

Have you ever been in one of those situations where you start to feel resentment towards those that you love and care about, because you found yourself doing something that you didn't want to do, but you did it for them anyways, again, again, and again? Only to be left feeling…down? YUP! I know that feeling all too well.
 
Setting boundaries is often misconceived as being selfish or rude, confrontational, and more - but that is not the case! Setting boundaries doesn't just apply to your relationships with your partner, family, and friends, but also through your career, workplace, and so on.
 
So, I'm here to give you more information as to why setting boundaries is healthy and how to set them.


Setting boundaries helps you take care of yourself and feel less stressed. It's about telling people what you're okay with and what you're not okay with, like your personal space or how you spend your time.
 
When you set boundaries, you feel more in control and respected. It reduces conflicts and misunderstandings in relationships. Plus, it gives you time to relax and do things you enjoy without feeling overwhelmed!
 
Overall, setting boundaries is a way to make sure you're taking care of yourself and feeling happier and less stressed. Now, bear with me. I know this is probably a lot to take in, so feel free to come back to this blog when you have some downtime.

 

How To Set Boundaries - Part 1

 

1. Know Your Limits

Take time to figure out what you're okay with and what you're not. Think about different parts of your life like time, personal space, talking, and how you feel.

 

2. Speak Clearly and Nicely

When you tell people about your boundaries, be clear and nice. Use "I" statements to talk about what you need without blaming them. Say exactly what they're doing that you don't like and what you want them to do instead.

 

3. Stick to Your Rules

Always follow your boundaries, even if it's hard. Don't change them to please others. Be strong and keep them the same, even if people don't like it.

 

4. Say What Will Happen:

Tell people what will happen if they don't respect your boundaries. It could be different depending on the situation, but it should make sense and be fair. Stick to what you said so people understand you're serious.

 

5. Get Help and Take Care of Yourself

If setting boundaries feels tough, ask friends, family, or a therapist for help. They can give you advice and support. Also, take care of yourself. Do things that make you feel good, especially when you're setting boundaries and adjusting to them.

 

We don't want to overwhelm you, so give yourself a moment and take all this information in. How to Set Boundaries Part 2 is available to read when you're ready!

Take care,

Tamarin

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